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|What Children Need to Grow and Thrive|
The way parents interact with their children has a direct effect on their development – their level of confidence and self-esteem, their sense of security, their emotional well-being, the way they relate to others, how they deal with authority, and their performance in school.
Parenting styles revolve around three important dimensions:
Basic parenting styles
There are four basic parenting styles.
Positive parents nurture, discipline, and respect their children in equal measure. They set high standards and expectations, consistently enforce rules, and encourage independence. Open communication and the ability to listen are key. Their parenting is said to be “positive.”
Demanding parents, on the other hand, discipline their children but don’t tend to nurture or respect them. They value obedience and discourage independence. They set strict rules, enforce them harshly and do not like to have their authority questioned. These parents are often described as “dominating”.
Permissive parents tend to nurture their children but don’t engage in effective discipline and don’t model or expect respectful behaviour. Although they show love and give attention, they make few demands and set no guidelines or structure for their children.
Unengaged parents don’t discipline, nurture, or respect their children. They are generally uninvolved and disinterested in parenting, interacting only minimally with their child. Their lack of interest may be due to their own immaturity or to problems with substance abuse.
Why is parenting style important?
Research over many years has confirmed over and over that parenting style has a direct effect on how children grow and thrive.
Children from authoritarian homes have both low self-esteem and self-confidence, high levels of anxiety and depression, and tend to have problems interacting with others. Their academic achievement is usually average and they have some behaviour problems. They also have persistent problems with authority.
Children from permissive homes have high self-esteem and self-confidence, and reduced levels of anxiety and depression, but they tend to do badly at school, show a lot of behaviour problems, and lack respect and responsibility.
At the other end of the spectrum, children who come from homes in which the parents are unengaged have the worst outcomes as adults. They tend to have low self-esteem and self-confidence, high levels of depression and anxiety, and have poor social skills. They have a lot of behaviour problems, do badly in school, have little respect for themselves or others, and lack responsibility.
Adapted from Parenting the Preschooler. What’s Your Parenting Style? http://www.uwex.edu/ces/flp/pp/ and
What's your Parenting Style?
Parenting style has a direct effect on how children grow and thrive. The following quiz  will help you discover your parenting style and gain a better understanding of how it impacts your child’s development.
Check all the statements that you believe to be true for you.
Find the numbers you checked below to discover your parenting style. You will probably find that you possess characteristics of more than one style. Once you understand these styles, you can make adjustments as you feel necessary to achieve the best outcomes for your child.
For a description of the styles and how they affect a child’s development, go to The importance of parenting.
This parenting quiz was developed by Joan E. LeFebvre, Professor, Department of Family Development, University of Wisconsin-Extension.
|Last Updated on Tuesday, 24 February 2009 13:17|